"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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annoyed how ex still talks to me, but for lame reasons

j8snx1

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okay, so ive already decided not to burn bridges b/w me and her but it's not cool how she, as well as other people on my AIM list, talk to me, and ONLY talk to me to get something out of me

just a while ago she IMs me with a casual tone of heys and how are yous. as a DJ i just hit off my usual convo stuff. my c&f and what not is wasted and she immediately asks for what she wanted to ask me (**** like "do you know so-and-so's phone number?) then she stops talking. just to be a good guy, i try to keep the convo going for fun, and immediate response is "brb" or some other lousy excuse to ditch and f*ck around with other friends.

i dont want to be a jerk to her or any of my "friends" but sh*t like that only fuels my passion to cuss them out and tell them to piss off and never talk to me ever again.

SO....

AS A recovering and still growing DJ, what should i do with ppl like that? :box:

PS: Im very tempted to say something like "dont f*cking IM me if you're going to just ask for stupid self-serving, greedy-@$$, worthless sh*t and then go on to pretend like I dont exist anymore."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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donpepot

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keep your cool...just be indifferent and polite...be unphased by the break up..she just want to get your attention...you see the first thing she will feel is...her ego will be bruised...keep ot up...act you dont care and have no grudges... and cut her calls short... about your friends just show to them your cool..and by the way..dont ever mention about that your been involved to this site espesially to yur friemds if dhe cought your intentions...it may not work...
 

Phat

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ur bein to nice to her man.. just block her.
 

WhAcKeD!

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I've got an idea, maybe you should stop talking to her?

Seems like your stuck in the past, pulling DJ moves on your ex, get over her and stop talking to her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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donpepot

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be cool and keep your composure and confidence and be the prize and youl see
 
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