"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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annoyed how ex still talks to me, but for lame reasons

j8snx1

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okay, so ive already decided not to burn bridges b/w me and her but it's not cool how she, as well as other people on my AIM list, talk to me, and ONLY talk to me to get something out of me

just a while ago she IMs me with a casual tone of heys and how are yous. as a DJ i just hit off my usual convo stuff. my c&f and what not is wasted and she immediately asks for what she wanted to ask me (**** like "do you know so-and-so's phone number?) then she stops talking. just to be a good guy, i try to keep the convo going for fun, and immediate response is "brb" or some other lousy excuse to ditch and f*ck around with other friends.

i dont want to be a jerk to her or any of my "friends" but sh*t like that only fuels my passion to cuss them out and tell them to piss off and never talk to me ever again.

SO....

AS A recovering and still growing DJ, what should i do with ppl like that? :box:

PS: Im very tempted to say something like "dont f*cking IM me if you're going to just ask for stupid self-serving, greedy-@$$, worthless sh*t and then go on to pretend like I dont exist anymore."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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donpepot

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keep your cool...just be indifferent and polite...be unphased by the break up..she just want to get your attention...you see the first thing she will feel is...her ego will be bruised...keep ot up...act you dont care and have no grudges... and cut her calls short... about your friends just show to them your cool..and by the way..dont ever mention about that your been involved to this site espesially to yur friemds if dhe cought your intentions...it may not work...
 

Phat

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ur bein to nice to her man.. just block her.
 

WhAcKeD!

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I've got an idea, maybe you should stop talking to her?

Seems like your stuck in the past, pulling DJ moves on your ex, get over her and stop talking to her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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donpepot

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be cool and keep your composure and confidence and be the prize and youl see
 
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