Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
And if you die tommorow?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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one can use dreams to overcome fear of approaching women.
dream analysis is very powerful
izza
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But here's a question for you (I hate anybody who asks this and now I'm 'that guy'): if I knew I were going to die tomorrow, I would spend all my money. But if I live to be 80, I would be a fool to have spent all my money. How can you live for the moment and for the long term at the same time?
(Good call on the dream analysis. For the past two weeks, I've been dreaming of "making moves on women" since that's what I have a lot of trouble doing. It's really funny, I wonder if it will have helped.)
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I'd be dead, how could I regret or think about it!
Oh comeon, no one put this answer yet..? Shiit..
Good post though
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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As for life...going...aww..I wish I did that...not really.
izza
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I have to say, I don't feel like I would give much of a **** about not having approached some hot chick. I mean, wa wa wa I didn't approach a few women. I'd be DEAD!
I've made bigger mistakes than that. I'm not going to sit here and be like, "oh I would regret it with the burning pain of a thousand suns." Fvck that sh!t, WHO CARES!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lol stupid tip:/
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
izza
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Does anybody enjoy their full possibilities? Do you? I didn't think so.ThatDude said:
You make a good point. I am dead right now, I live like a dead man. I have zero gratitude for the wondrous gift of life that has been handed to me. I live as if I had already failed, as if my life were already over.
You're right, it's about the bigger picture, not just about chicks.
izza
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Haha, hhhwhat? Yo man, I'll take the victory (?) although, I didn't even know there was a competition, and I don't rightly know what you're talking about.ThatDude said:
I was just curious, where is the dividing line between someone who is dead and someone who is alive? It seems to me that no people fulfill all their possibilities, and nobody neglects all of them either.
God I think too much!
Have I mentioned this is a great post? I'm not trying to flame, I'm just venting my frustrations. Sorry if there was some confusion!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.