"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
And if you die tommorow?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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one can use dreams to overcome fear of approaching women.
dream analysis is very powerful
izza
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But here's a question for you (I hate anybody who asks this and now I'm 'that guy'): if I knew I were going to die tomorrow, I would spend all my money. But if I live to be 80, I would be a fool to have spent all my money. How can you live for the moment and for the long term at the same time?
(Good call on the dream analysis. For the past two weeks, I've been dreaming of "making moves on women" since that's what I have a lot of trouble doing. It's really funny, I wonder if it will have helped.)
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I'd be dead, how could I regret or think about it!
Oh comeon, no one put this answer yet..? Shiit..
Good post though
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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As for life...going...aww..I wish I did that...not really.
izza
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I have to say, I don't feel like I would give much of a **** about not having approached some hot chick. I mean, wa wa wa I didn't approach a few women. I'd be DEAD!
I've made bigger mistakes than that. I'm not going to sit here and be like, "oh I would regret it with the burning pain of a thousand suns." Fvck that sh!t, WHO CARES!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
lol stupid tip:/
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
izza
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Does anybody enjoy their full possibilities? Do you? I didn't think so.ThatDude said:
You make a good point. I am dead right now, I live like a dead man. I have zero gratitude for the wondrous gift of life that has been handed to me. I live as if I had already failed, as if my life were already over.
You're right, it's about the bigger picture, not just about chicks.
izza
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Haha, hhhwhat? Yo man, I'll take the victory (?) although, I didn't even know there was a competition, and I don't rightly know what you're talking about.ThatDude said:
I was just curious, where is the dividing line between someone who is dead and someone who is alive? It seems to me that no people fulfill all their possibilities, and nobody neglects all of them either.
God I think too much!
Have I mentioned this is a great post? I'm not trying to flame, I'm just venting my frustrations. Sorry if there was some confusion!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.