"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And if you die tommorow?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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one can use dreams to overcome fear of approaching women.
dream analysis is very powerful
izza
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But here's a question for you (I hate anybody who asks this and now I'm 'that guy'): if I knew I were going to die tomorrow, I would spend all my money. But if I live to be 80, I would be a fool to have spent all my money. How can you live for the moment and for the long term at the same time?
(Good call on the dream analysis. For the past two weeks, I've been dreaming of "making moves on women" since that's what I have a lot of trouble doing. It's really funny, I wonder if it will have helped.)
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I'd be dead, how could I regret or think about it!
Oh comeon, no one put this answer yet..? Shiit..
Good post though
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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As for life...going...aww..I wish I did that...not really.
izza
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I have to say, I don't feel like I would give much of a **** about not having approached some hot chick. I mean, wa wa wa I didn't approach a few women. I'd be DEAD!
I've made bigger mistakes than that. I'm not going to sit here and be like, "oh I would regret it with the burning pain of a thousand suns." Fvck that sh!t, WHO CARES!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lol stupid tip:/
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
izza
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Does anybody enjoy their full possibilities? Do you? I didn't think so.ThatDude said:
You make a good point. I am dead right now, I live like a dead man. I have zero gratitude for the wondrous gift of life that has been handed to me. I live as if I had already failed, as if my life were already over.
You're right, it's about the bigger picture, not just about chicks.
izza
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Haha, hhhwhat? Yo man, I'll take the victory (?) although, I didn't even know there was a competition, and I don't rightly know what you're talking about.ThatDude said:
I was just curious, where is the dividing line between someone who is dead and someone who is alive? It seems to me that no people fulfill all their possibilities, and nobody neglects all of them either.
God I think too much!
Have I mentioned this is a great post? I'm not trying to flame, I'm just venting my frustrations. Sorry if there was some confusion!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.