"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Analyze the situation for me.

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Basically, I got to know this girl at school who was pretty attractive and was no doubt an attention *****, always liking to get attention from other people. Although the DJs state not to pursue attention *****s because they're high maintenance and not worth your time, I wanted to give myself a challenge and see what could erupt from it anyway.

We went out during the night time and she was doing some things to initiate Kino on me (leaning her head against me), and once I had picked up on that, I began to initiate Kino on her as well, but I think I was a bit too agressive in the situation where I would just find an excuse to use Kino when I could, bad move.

Anyway I had to call her up today to get some information regarding an assignment we're working on, and she said "You don't have too much respect for me, do you?" and also said "I had busy hands."

Ouch. Heh, what do I make out of this situation? Probably best to just forget about her now, right?
Responses are highly appreciated.

Note: I see her every day at school, so somehow this will come up again.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If it bothered her, she would have stopped you.
 

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Well, i suppose some C+F wouldn't have gone amis when she said that about "busy hands".
 

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Jonny: Hm, care to elaborate on how I could've been C+F in the situation? I can still rectify it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jonny football hero

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Forgive me, i'm very tired so if this doesn't make sense......

Her: You have really busy hands
You: some C +F sh!t (sorry can't be arsed to think of one)

Makes you seem not bothered even though she delivered what seems as an insult, making you seem fun.
 

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jonny: Gotcha. I get what you're trying to say.

What's so wrong about playing around with her on the first outing we had? It was all fun, and I thought she realized that too.
 

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Nothing is wrong. It's a test women perform on "potential males".
 

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Her: You got busy hands
You: Of corse Im a busy man

:D That's the only shyt i could think of:p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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response...

HB: You had busy hands and don't respect me.

You: ME!?!? You were the one molesting my hands all night....where is your respect for me baby?
 
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