DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
philippines.
along with evol_andre
we're lonely down here.
along with evol_andre
we're lonely down here.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
An almost complete list of where a lot of people are from...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HanSolo
New Member
I'm new here, but...
Add me too. I'm looking for some guys to go out with for/to give assistance in developing skills. I have too many boring wussy AFC friends who won't work with me or give me BS advise. Me - "Let's go play some pool, shuffleboard, or walk around to check out the place and who's come in lately - in other words do something interesting." Them - "Nah, I just want to sit here at the bar, drink my beer, and talk about boring sh*t with you." Me - [yawn] "Guess I won't have much luck increasing my skills tonight then. Thanks to you, c*cksucker..." OR Me - "Dude, check out that chick over there. I need you to distract the friends and remove some of her shielding so I get through and communicate with her." Them - "Go for it, dude..." Me - "Aren't you coming?" Them - "Nah.... dude..." Me - "C*cksucker..." Then I end up walking up to packs of girls all by myself, with no back up. If I was more skilled I might be okay, but starting out I could use a buddy who has a clue (or who at least wants to get one)...
I could use a friend to work with here. I'm a lone wolf here - it would VERY helpful to have a buddy who likes girls and is willing to experiment with different tactics and develop skills.
I'm in New Jersey - close to Cherry Hill and Philadelphia, PA.
Add me too. I'm looking for some guys to go out with for/to give assistance in developing skills. I have too many boring wussy AFC friends who won't work with me or give me BS advise. Me - "Let's go play some pool, shuffleboard, or walk around to check out the place and who's come in lately - in other words do something interesting." Them - "Nah, I just want to sit here at the bar, drink my beer, and talk about boring sh*t with you." Me - [yawn] "Guess I won't have much luck increasing my skills tonight then. Thanks to you, c*cksucker..." OR Me - "Dude, check out that chick over there. I need you to distract the friends and remove some of her shielding so I get through and communicate with her." Them - "Go for it, dude..." Me - "Aren't you coming?" Them - "Nah.... dude..." Me - "C*cksucker..." Then I end up walking up to packs of girls all by myself, with no back up. If I was more skilled I might be okay, but starting out I could use a buddy who has a clue (or who at least wants to get one)...
I could use a friend to work with here. I'm a lone wolf here - it would VERY helpful to have a buddy who likes girls and is willing to experiment with different tactics and develop skills.
I'm in New Jersey - close to Cherry Hill and Philadelphia, PA.
WaRpEd
Senior Don Juan
<----Tennessee
Capi Crimini
Banned
DarkfalconIV meaning um.....me. The SN was changed and now I live in Wisconsin. Though you can leave DarkfalconIv up. I visit a lot.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
you spelled Philippines wrong. 
smileyz is with us too.
smileyz is with us too.
Dee-Zy - If I was to split it up, there would be a LOT of people in thier own little area, plus a lot of people just say "Canada" in thier profiles, so I don't know which part they are in.
DJ - Updated and added. I need to stop trying to update this when tired.
DJ - Updated and added. I need to stop trying to update this when tired.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ Alejandro
Senior Don Juan
hey, crazykid. thanks, you just made things a whole lot easier for everyone here. i really appreciate it.
Ak89
Don Juan
U forgot me
New York boy!!!
New York boy!!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Chaos-Knight
Don Juan
<-- West Canada EH?!
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
<-------- California
You just can't leave me out like that.
You just can't leave me out like that.
firestarter
Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2003
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arre I'm from India
Frankie Poullain
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 30, 2004
- Messages
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Re: ''the Canada problem''
How about you seperate it into time zones for different parts of Canada?
How about you seperate it into time zones for different parts of Canada?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.