"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
an AFC move?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
chicksrock
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if it feels right to open with a compliment then do so
do what feels natural and complements your PU game
If at first you come off as a nice guy, they will not scream, hold their skirts up and run away while yelling: NICE GUY ALERT!! NICE GUY ALERT!!!
It is your attitude in general that makes them decide you are clingy, needy or just nice.
So in short the answer to your question: no.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Say something sophisticated like "I was watching you from a distance with my binoculars and you seem to carry yourself well and have very good posture".
How many men have used this line before? Not too many!!
Ever onward
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EC is meant to show interest from both sides. Not to test who is the dominant one. Keep it light. Don't start staring like an idiot waiting for her to look away cuz you'll look like a maniak and you'll freak her out.
If you catch her eye, smile. If she smiles back, aproach.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Usually a girl would lock eyes, and then immediately look away with a little smile on her face. If you look away before this, you'll look like a nervous wreck that was caught staring.
However, if the girl does not look away immediately, I would never get into the contest of seeing who will look away first. I either approach or smile at her and focus elsewhere (my friends, my book, whatever).
I usually wait for at least EC before I approach. Some guys would disagree with me and do a cold approach but I have never liked the cold approach so I can't and shouldn't give you advise on that.