"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
am i ugly?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ace of Flames
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I didn't look at the picture.
Yes. If you think you are, you will be. Don't worry about looks, and instead develop a game so strong that girls won't care what you look like, only how you pleasure them soooooo good. No sense in complaining about something you can't really change.
Yes. If you think you are, you will be. Don't worry about looks, and instead develop a game so strong that girls won't care what you look like, only how you pleasure them soooooo good. No sense in complaining about something you can't really change.
You look pretty cool, I would actually say. I thought it was a real ugly guy asking this question. But no, you're not ugly at all.
However, you may have low self-esteem issues (in asking this question in this particular way, when you could have asked--"how do I look to you?")
However, you may have low self-esteem issues (in asking this question in this particular way, when you could have asked--"how do I look to you?")
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
gongxia649
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post it in hotornot.com
DJwanna said:i used to be real confident ok with the chicks then some girls just totally went off on me and now i feel like ****
I definatly been there, and i bet many members have been too. I'd love to hear your story bro.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Flabbergasped?
Master Don Juan
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To be honest...
No, you're fine.
No, you're fine.
OfficeSpace
Master Don Juan
You're not ugly... But to be honest, I wouldn't say you're incredibly good looking. But you'll do fine with chicks... I don't think you'll scare them away hehe
DJwanna said:
You look like my younger brother.
He is going out with a tall slim sexy blonde haired girl.
For over 2 years now, she is hot.
had 2 three-somes and a long line of girls after him.
But saying that he his one ****y confident mother!
Women love green/blue eyes, i should know i have them too.
Make sure you look into girls eyes, this is one of your finer features and a killer arsenal if i dont mind saying so.
You are a good looking guys, but you have very fresh-faced boyish looks. Some women will go for that and others won't. It's the same for everyone, you just have to find the women who find your look attractive.
The only real problem I see is that you do not portray much of a masculine presence, but confidence is more than half of the solution to that.
The only real problem I see is that you do not portray much of a masculine presence, but confidence is more than half of the solution to that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
[S]alvatore
Master Don Juan
No you're not. Once your skin clears up and your face starts to mature you'll have to start beating chicks away with a stick. The only suggestions I can give to you are: brush your teeth to get them sparkling, and possible use more gel/wax in your hair.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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