Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
am i ugly?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I didn't look at the picture.
Yes. If you think you are, you will be. Don't worry about looks, and instead develop a game so strong that girls won't care what you look like, only how you pleasure them soooooo good. No sense in complaining about something you can't really change.
Yes. If you think you are, you will be. Don't worry about looks, and instead develop a game so strong that girls won't care what you look like, only how you pleasure them soooooo good. No sense in complaining about something you can't really change.
You look pretty cool, I would actually say. I thought it was a real ugly guy asking this question. But no, you're not ugly at all.
However, you may have low self-esteem issues (in asking this question in this particular way, when you could have asked--"how do I look to you?")
However, you may have low self-esteem issues (in asking this question in this particular way, when you could have asked--"how do I look to you?")
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
gongxia649
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post it in hotornot.com
DJwanna said:i used to be real confident ok with the chicks then some girls just totally went off on me and now i feel like ****
I definatly been there, and i bet many members have been too. I'd love to hear your story bro.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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To be honest...
No, you're fine.
No, you're fine.
OfficeSpace
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You're not ugly... But to be honest, I wouldn't say you're incredibly good looking. But you'll do fine with chicks... I don't think you'll scare them away hehe
DJwanna said:
You look like my younger brother.
He is going out with a tall slim sexy blonde haired girl.
For over 2 years now, she is hot.
had 2 three-somes and a long line of girls after him.
But saying that he his one ****y confident mother!
Women love green/blue eyes, i should know i have them too.
Make sure you look into girls eyes, this is one of your finer features and a killer arsenal if i dont mind saying so.
You are a good looking guys, but you have very fresh-faced boyish looks. Some women will go for that and others won't. It's the same for everyone, you just have to find the women who find your look attractive.
The only real problem I see is that you do not portray much of a masculine presence, but confidence is more than half of the solution to that.
The only real problem I see is that you do not portray much of a masculine presence, but confidence is more than half of the solution to that.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
[S]alvatore
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No you're not. Once your skin clears up and your face starts to mature you'll have to start beating chicks away with a stick. The only suggestions I can give to you are: brush your teeth to get them sparkling, and possible use more gel/wax in your hair.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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