"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Went on a 3rd date open the date with a kiss. Everything went swimmingly. You know light banter, asking about my dating life, infinte touching and kissing.
She kept contact the next day and i offered dinner in a few days time, at my place she seemed ecstatic asked what i was going to cook her and then vanished.

Lol

What to make of this? Low interest? Gaming me?
You waited too long to have sex with her. 3rd date is when it should have happened, By the time you offered dinner in a few days time, she could already been pregnant by another guy.

You have to strike when the iron is hot. Unless you are a Hollywood Star, don’t assume it will always be hot.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You waited too long to have sex with her. 3rd date is when it should have happened, By the time you offered dinner in a few days time, she could already been pregnant by another guy.

You have to strike when the iron is hot. Unless you are a Hollywood Star, don’t assume it will always be hot.
Mostly true.

But there's some women due to her upbringing might require additional time and effort.

If OP is looking to just bang, then 3 dates should be a deal breaker, especially in cities.
 

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You waited too long to have sex with her. 3rd date is when it should have happened, By the time you offered dinner in a few days time, she could already been pregnant by another guy.

You have to strike when the iron is hot. Unless you are a Hollywood Star, don’t assume it will always be hot.
The painters were in town 3rd date
 

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Third date and just a kiss? You should at least be making out with the woman by the third date. Some women will go out with you, spend your money and then when it’s time to “Netflix and chill” they disappear because they don’t want to have sex with you and it’s usually because she is still banging her ex or she is bored. I have never had any long term success with women who make you wait and like they say, the wait is never worth it.
 

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You gotta be careful with her getting comfortable though cause then you have one foot in the friend zone and the other on a banana peel. Thinking back to every girl that came right out and admitted to me without me asking, “I feel completely safe and trust you”, I never slept with a single one of them.
I'm not saying that you need to wait six months. But I think "comfort" as a strategy is underrated here. Certainly it's a balancing act, and you don't want to be all comfort and no excitement/attraction. But comfort is a factor that should be included in there somewhere.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have certain standards when it comes to this sh!t.
And you should too!

My standards = progress
I have to feel like I'm not wasting my time.
If the third date or third meeting feels worse than the first date, I'm dropping her ASAP.
This is not progress, it's a setback.
 

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Third date and just a kiss? You should at least be making out with the woman by the third date. Some women will go out with you, spend your money and then when it’s time to “Netflix and chill” they disappear because they don’t want to have sex with you and it’s usually because she is still banging her ex or she is bored. I have never had any long term success with women who make you wait and like they say, the wait is never worth it.
Yeah making out not kissing. I say kissing i mean make out.
 

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I have certain standards when it comes to this sh!t.
And you should too!

My standards = progress
I have to feel like I'm not wasting my time.
If the third date or third meeting feels worse than the first date, I'm dropping her ASAP.
This is not progress, it's a setback.
Same here. There is constant progress when we are toghether.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not gonna bother reading all the posts here.

She likely had a guy in her life that came back into the frame, you can’t win against this. Or, she just wasn’t feeling you. Either way you need to dust yourself off and keep it moving.
 

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Y not go dual strategy. Treat it like a flake. Reach out a week later with a Hi. In the meantime stack more plates. One of the many benefits of plating is u don't care too much when they give it up as your getting plenty anyway. Her better option may fall through she LL be all worked up and bounce back to you and you LL be nuts deep. Happened to moi many times. Seldom stable but it all adds to your rotation and experience.
 
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