"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Am I a jerk or was she? Bad date

the_stig

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Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy and demanding profile. We hit it off fine at first. She admitted to being bitter after some bad relationships. Things started going South when she called me a negative person for stating that everyone was shallow to a degree when it comes to looks and dating. She then accused me of being judgemental because in the first few minutes of the date I said "you look different from your pictures (she did) but not in a bad way". I didn't mean it with any malace and I told her that. She said I should have said she looked better than her pictures :rolleyes:. When I responded with "So any guy that you date pretty much has to walk on egg shells?" she says "you know what, i'm going home". Without saying anything, I put my jacket on and pulled out cash for my drink. We left a minute or two later, still making small talk, but it was awkward. I almost threw my cash down and walked out without her.

Did I put my foot in my mouth, which I sometimes do, or was she just a b*tch?

The best part:

I'm meeting another plate in twenty minutes for drinks :rockon:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Masculinity

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IF this is the first time hanging out and she's already giving you drama, think about what she would do if you were dating her or in a LTR. You saved yourself a looot of bad things.

I am POSITIVE you made the right choice; you should do the same.

PS: I would have left that psycho!
 

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And thats the reason she is a SINGLE mom.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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the_stig

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Just finished drinks with the other girl and it couldn't have gone better. She texted me immediately after telling me I seemed like a really great guy. The single b*tch mom isn't even on my mind anymore and her number deleted. This is a quintessential example of why we have plates my friends!
 

Uberguy

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the_stig said:
Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy
I stopped reading your post at this point, because I knew everything I needed to know.

You can do better. Do not look back.
 
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