"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Am I a jerk or was she? Bad date

the_stig

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Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy and demanding profile. We hit it off fine at first. She admitted to being bitter after some bad relationships. Things started going South when she called me a negative person for stating that everyone was shallow to a degree when it comes to looks and dating. She then accused me of being judgemental because in the first few minutes of the date I said "you look different from your pictures (she did) but not in a bad way". I didn't mean it with any malace and I told her that. She said I should have said she looked better than her pictures :rolleyes:. When I responded with "So any guy that you date pretty much has to walk on egg shells?" she says "you know what, i'm going home". Without saying anything, I put my jacket on and pulled out cash for my drink. We left a minute or two later, still making small talk, but it was awkward. I almost threw my cash down and walked out without her.

Did I put my foot in my mouth, which I sometimes do, or was she just a b*tch?

The best part:

I'm meeting another plate in twenty minutes for drinks :rockon:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Masculinity

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IF this is the first time hanging out and she's already giving you drama, think about what she would do if you were dating her or in a LTR. You saved yourself a looot of bad things.

I am POSITIVE you made the right choice; you should do the same.

PS: I would have left that psycho!
 

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And thats the reason she is a SINGLE mom.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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the_stig

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Just finished drinks with the other girl and it couldn't have gone better. She texted me immediately after telling me I seemed like a really great guy. The single b*tch mom isn't even on my mind anymore and her number deleted. This is a quintessential example of why we have plates my friends!
 

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the_stig said:
Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy
I stopped reading your post at this point, because I knew everything I needed to know.

You can do better. Do not look back.
 
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