"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Am I a jerk or was she? Bad date

the_stig

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Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy and demanding profile. We hit it off fine at first. She admitted to being bitter after some bad relationships. Things started going South when she called me a negative person for stating that everyone was shallow to a degree when it comes to looks and dating. She then accused me of being judgemental because in the first few minutes of the date I said "you look different from your pictures (she did) but not in a bad way". I didn't mean it with any malace and I told her that. She said I should have said she looked better than her pictures :rolleyes:. When I responded with "So any guy that you date pretty much has to walk on egg shells?" she says "you know what, i'm going home". Without saying anything, I put my jacket on and pulled out cash for my drink. We left a minute or two later, still making small talk, but it was awkward. I almost threw my cash down and walked out without her.

Did I put my foot in my mouth, which I sometimes do, or was she just a b*tch?

The best part:

I'm meeting another plate in twenty minutes for drinks :rockon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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IF this is the first time hanging out and she's already giving you drama, think about what she would do if you were dating her or in a LTR. You saved yourself a looot of bad things.

I am POSITIVE you made the right choice; you should do the same.

PS: I would have left that psycho!
 

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And thats the reason she is a SINGLE mom.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the_stig

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Just finished drinks with the other girl and it couldn't have gone better. She texted me immediately after telling me I seemed like a really great guy. The single b*tch mom isn't even on my mind anymore and her number deleted. This is a quintessential example of why we have plates my friends!
 

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the_stig said:
Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy
I stopped reading your post at this point, because I knew everything I needed to know.

You can do better. Do not look back.
 
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