"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Am I a jerk or was she? Bad date

the_stig

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Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy and demanding profile. We hit it off fine at first. She admitted to being bitter after some bad relationships. Things started going South when she called me a negative person for stating that everyone was shallow to a degree when it comes to looks and dating. She then accused me of being judgemental because in the first few minutes of the date I said "you look different from your pictures (she did) but not in a bad way". I didn't mean it with any malace and I told her that. She said I should have said she looked better than her pictures :rolleyes:. When I responded with "So any guy that you date pretty much has to walk on egg shells?" she says "you know what, i'm going home". Without saying anything, I put my jacket on and pulled out cash for my drink. We left a minute or two later, still making small talk, but it was awkward. I almost threw my cash down and walked out without her.

Did I put my foot in my mouth, which I sometimes do, or was she just a b*tch?

The best part:

I'm meeting another plate in twenty minutes for drinks :rockon:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IF this is the first time hanging out and she's already giving you drama, think about what she would do if you were dating her or in a LTR. You saved yourself a looot of bad things.

I am POSITIVE you made the right choice; you should do the same.

PS: I would have left that psycho!
 

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And thats the reason she is a SINGLE mom.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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the_stig

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Just finished drinks with the other girl and it couldn't have gone better. She texted me immediately after telling me I seemed like a really great guy. The single b*tch mom isn't even on my mind anymore and her number deleted. This is a quintessential example of why we have plates my friends!
 

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the_stig said:
Just met up with a gal from POF, an HB7-8 but a single mom with a pretty b!tchy
I stopped reading your post at this point, because I knew everything I needed to know.

You can do better. Do not look back.
 
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