"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Altruism

Ridingthelightning

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I'm pretty sure that this has been posted before

I'm an Ecology major and one thing I've recently learned about is Altruistic behavior among animals.
Altruistism - a concern of the well being for others without reward.
Altruistic Behavior in animals is represented best by an equation
Br-C>0
B = benefit to the actor (person performing action)
r = relatedness of the actor to recipient of the action
C = cost of the action

When I go out I see a lot of guys just worrying about themselves. This is fine if you're all alone. Or even if the other guys you're out with will not be altruistic.
Every so often I'll see two or more guys setting each other up for some form of success. This is what more men should do. If you don't know someone then its completely understandable you'd not try and help them get laid (or other benefit).
Its like Superbad. The two cops guided McLovin's ****.
This goes along with wingman stuff. "Attack" groups together, or if a buddy brings a girl over then chat her up too. But don't **** block. I notice too many people **** blocking their fellow comrades, and it just isn't good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ridingthelightning

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And of course I forget to post the hinge point...
as Br-C>0, then altruistic behavior increases and spreads.
I have a personal belief that all people should "pay it forward".
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Brought up by Dawkins in "The Selfish Gene," "Tit for Tat" is a mathematical explanation as to why "altruism" might have evolved.

Dawkins also discusses various theoretical societies that contain hawks, doves, and mixtures of both, as well as oscillate between both endpoints to a point of equilibrium. Pretty interesting stuff.
 

Guoy Darko

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The reason this forum exists shows we are pretty altruistic guys. A forum where only questions are asked and no answers would be given wouldn't exist very long.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Huffman

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Of course, both egoism and altruism have to be taken with a grain of salt.

I would, for example, say that my visiting this forum is very egoistic.
And if I do happen to give some useful advice - I do this for myself, too, presenting what I have come up with.
 
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