"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Altruism

Ridingthelightning

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I'm pretty sure that this has been posted before

I'm an Ecology major and one thing I've recently learned about is Altruistic behavior among animals.
Altruistism - a concern of the well being for others without reward.
Altruistic Behavior in animals is represented best by an equation
Br-C>0
B = benefit to the actor (person performing action)
r = relatedness of the actor to recipient of the action
C = cost of the action

When I go out I see a lot of guys just worrying about themselves. This is fine if you're all alone. Or even if the other guys you're out with will not be altruistic.
Every so often I'll see two or more guys setting each other up for some form of success. This is what more men should do. If you don't know someone then its completely understandable you'd not try and help them get laid (or other benefit).
Its like Superbad. The two cops guided McLovin's ****.
This goes along with wingman stuff. "Attack" groups together, or if a buddy brings a girl over then chat her up too. But don't **** block. I notice too many people **** blocking their fellow comrades, and it just isn't good.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ridingthelightning

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And of course I forget to post the hinge point...
as Br-C>0, then altruistic behavior increases and spreads.
I have a personal belief that all people should "pay it forward".
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Brought up by Dawkins in "The Selfish Gene," "Tit for Tat" is a mathematical explanation as to why "altruism" might have evolved.

Dawkins also discusses various theoretical societies that contain hawks, doves, and mixtures of both, as well as oscillate between both endpoints to a point of equilibrium. Pretty interesting stuff.
 

Guoy Darko

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The reason this forum exists shows we are pretty altruistic guys. A forum where only questions are asked and no answers would be given wouldn't exist very long.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Huffman

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Of course, both egoism and altruism have to be taken with a grain of salt.

I would, for example, say that my visiting this forum is very egoistic.
And if I do happen to give some useful advice - I do this for myself, too, presenting what I have come up with.
 
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