"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Altruism

Ridingthelightning

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I'm pretty sure that this has been posted before

I'm an Ecology major and one thing I've recently learned about is Altruistic behavior among animals.
Altruistism - a concern of the well being for others without reward.
Altruistic Behavior in animals is represented best by an equation
Br-C>0
B = benefit to the actor (person performing action)
r = relatedness of the actor to recipient of the action
C = cost of the action

When I go out I see a lot of guys just worrying about themselves. This is fine if you're all alone. Or even if the other guys you're out with will not be altruistic.
Every so often I'll see two or more guys setting each other up for some form of success. This is what more men should do. If you don't know someone then its completely understandable you'd not try and help them get laid (or other benefit).
Its like Superbad. The two cops guided McLovin's ****.
This goes along with wingman stuff. "Attack" groups together, or if a buddy brings a girl over then chat her up too. But don't **** block. I notice too many people **** blocking their fellow comrades, and it just isn't good.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ridingthelightning

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And of course I forget to post the hinge point...
as Br-C>0, then altruistic behavior increases and spreads.
I have a personal belief that all people should "pay it forward".
 

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Brought up by Dawkins in "The Selfish Gene," "Tit for Tat" is a mathematical explanation as to why "altruism" might have evolved.

Dawkins also discusses various theoretical societies that contain hawks, doves, and mixtures of both, as well as oscillate between both endpoints to a point of equilibrium. Pretty interesting stuff.
 

Guoy Darko

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The reason this forum exists shows we are pretty altruistic guys. A forum where only questions are asked and no answers would be given wouldn't exist very long.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Huffman

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Of course, both egoism and altruism have to be taken with a grain of salt.

I would, for example, say that my visiting this forum is very egoistic.
And if I do happen to give some useful advice - I do this for myself, too, presenting what I have come up with.
 
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