Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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ALPHATHREE's OFFICIAL GUIDE TO **Complimenting WOMEN**

Alphathree

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When you look at a woman, your internal dialog might be something like this: "Well, she's got a nice butt and her face is cute, but she's kinda short." Or whatever.

But what does the AFC say? "You're beautiful." It's not the complete thought. The complete thought is: "DESPITE YOUR FLAWS, you're beautiful."

I compliment women all the time, but I don't leave out any of my thoughts. I was out shopping for a dress with an HB9 a while ago and she asked me how she looked. I said, "It doesn't flatter your curves."

Another girl asked me what I thought of her, so I started rambling off AFC stuff. This girl was 6'0", so I threw in, "short" as one of the qualities at the end of the list. She was totally delighted because "no guy" had "ever said that to" her before.

How does her a** look?
"Moderately curvy."
"Decent."

The point is, fully express the internal monologue in your head. Don't just leave it at "beautiful." The formula is <compliment> BUT <exception>.

LEAVE DOUBT IN HER MIND. SHE WILL SEEK VALIDATION. THIS IS GOOD. THIS IS THE POINT OF NEGGING and C&F.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alphathree

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Oh, and a good response to ANYTHING a woman asks, says, does, or does not do is this:

"Interesting." <sly smile>

EDIT: Oh, and never elaborate on what exactly it is you find interesting. This will drive her NUTS thinking about you.
 

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LOL, The title had me worried...but Bravo!!! When done correctly this can be more effective than failing to compliment at all (which is my stardard mo).:D
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree
Oh, and a good response to ANYTHING a woman asks, says, does, or does not do is this:

"Interesting." <sly smile>

EDIT: Oh, and never elaborate on what exactly it is you find interesting. This will drive her NUTS thinking about you.
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jaun_Don

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Originally posted by griffon65
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
I have said that for years and I remember an ex used to ask me is it? and I would never answer and sway the conversation.
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree


The point is, fully express the internal monologue in your head. Don't just leave it at "beautiful." The formula is <compliment> BUT <exception>.


My gf has gotten so used to me saying something negative along with a positive, that if i ever say something only positive she says "where's the negative?"

I'm still not sure if this bugs her or not that i always do that. Too much of a good thing?
 

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I'd also suggest complimenting women on things they aren't used to being complimented about.

For example, I knew this young model who had guys saying "You're hot!" like 40 billion times an hour. I noticed she seemed smarter than the average model (excellent memory and interesting personality) so I commented on it. She was absolutely stunned, and blushed like a kid. Then I asked if those things were real and killed the mood.


(As a note I only say it if its true. If a hot model can't even spell "model", I'm not gonna tell her she's smart. This is more of my personal moral thing though)
 

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Originally posted by griffon65
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
I do that all the time...i stroke my little goetee to add a dramatic effect.
 
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