"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ALPHATHREE's OFFICIAL GUIDE TO **Complimenting WOMEN**

Alphathree

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When you look at a woman, your internal dialog might be something like this: "Well, she's got a nice butt and her face is cute, but she's kinda short." Or whatever.

But what does the AFC say? "You're beautiful." It's not the complete thought. The complete thought is: "DESPITE YOUR FLAWS, you're beautiful."

I compliment women all the time, but I don't leave out any of my thoughts. I was out shopping for a dress with an HB9 a while ago and she asked me how she looked. I said, "It doesn't flatter your curves."

Another girl asked me what I thought of her, so I started rambling off AFC stuff. This girl was 6'0", so I threw in, "short" as one of the qualities at the end of the list. She was totally delighted because "no guy" had "ever said that to" her before.

How does her a** look?
"Moderately curvy."
"Decent."

The point is, fully express the internal monologue in your head. Don't just leave it at "beautiful." The formula is <compliment> BUT <exception>.

LEAVE DOUBT IN HER MIND. SHE WILL SEEK VALIDATION. THIS IS GOOD. THIS IS THE POINT OF NEGGING and C&F.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh, and a good response to ANYTHING a woman asks, says, does, or does not do is this:

"Interesting." <sly smile>

EDIT: Oh, and never elaborate on what exactly it is you find interesting. This will drive her NUTS thinking about you.
 

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LOL, The title had me worried...but Bravo!!! When done correctly this can be more effective than failing to compliment at all (which is my stardard mo).:D
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree
Oh, and a good response to ANYTHING a woman asks, says, does, or does not do is this:

"Interesting." <sly smile>

EDIT: Oh, and never elaborate on what exactly it is you find interesting. This will drive her NUTS thinking about you.
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by griffon65
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
I have said that for years and I remember an ex used to ask me is it? and I would never answer and sway the conversation.
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree


The point is, fully express the internal monologue in your head. Don't just leave it at "beautiful." The formula is <compliment> BUT <exception>.


My gf has gotten so used to me saying something negative along with a positive, that if i ever say something only positive she says "where's the negative?"

I'm still not sure if this bugs her or not that i always do that. Too much of a good thing?
 

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I'd also suggest complimenting women on things they aren't used to being complimented about.

For example, I knew this young model who had guys saying "You're hot!" like 40 billion times an hour. I noticed she seemed smarter than the average model (excellent memory and interesting personality) so I commented on it. She was absolutely stunned, and blushed like a kid. Then I asked if those things were real and killed the mood.


(As a note I only say it if its true. If a hot model can't even spell "model", I'm not gonna tell her she's smart. This is more of my personal moral thing though)
 

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Originally posted by griffon65
"interesting" hmm I like that. Im definatly gonna add that to my game. Thanks
I do that all the time...i stroke my little goetee to add a dramatic effect.
 
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