"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ahh!! I f*cked up! get me out!

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Been with my girlfriend for 6 months. Girl absolutely loves me. Anyway, I have been asked out by a couple girls in school this semester at college. I tought that this was pretty cool.(using a lot that this site says to do).

I dont know how or why, because i have never done this before, but i took one of these girls up on her offer. I chilled at her hosue the first night. Within two hours i had her pants off, but some got some LMR and she didnt want to have sex. One week later I have sex with her. Also i blew this girl off 3 times before we chilled, becuase i was having guilty conscience about cheating o my girl. Overall i was just an a$$hole to this chick....so sh wanted me more.

Anyway, I feel terrible now. I f*cked that girl after me and my gf got in a fight, but i feel terrible now. Problem is, this new girl really likes me, but i'm not into her like that. She could NEVER replace my gf. What should i do to break free from ths chick? I do not want this to go on ANY longer, and I want to end it as quickly and smoothly as possible, with no fighting, crazy bs, etc... How do I go about doing this without all the drama?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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does she know u have a gf?

then just lay out the terms if you want to keep her around as a FB, or flat out tell her that you have feelings for somebody else and that it wouldnt be fair for both of them...

basically differ the blame, use the old "its not you, its me" **** that girls use on guys all the time...
 
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Go uber-AFC on her. Buy her flowers, write her a poem, whatever you want to do, bro! The point is to turn her off, let her think SHE'S rejecting YOU. That way, she won't come after your GF or try to blackmail you.
 
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Sean O said:
Go uber-AFC on her. Buy her flowers, write her a poem, whatever you want to do, bro! The point is to turn her off, let her think SHE'S rejecting YOU. That way, she won't come after your GF or try to blackmail you.
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Haha I love it. Run her off with AFCness!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thanks for the responses lol. Well I have a feeling if I start telling her I love her and all that, she will want me just as much. I can see it when she looks at me that she is probably in love with me, or is falling for me. I just want to end this quick, not let it drag out.


This is the last time i get myself into this mess!!
 
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be honest but direct. let her know that you're not feeling the same thing she is.

Do it soon before she believes otherwise, but be tactful and spare her feelings.

its good to avoid burning bridges whenever you can.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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