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AJ84
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You’re right about men not being judged on their ability to bear children, but it doesn’t change the fact that women typically choose to marry and have children with men closer to their own age.I think demographics is important when discussing age. A 19 year old could possibly have never been to a bar before. She could be sheltered and used to little boys. Once she hits that 21 year old demographic, she's going to realize that a man is someone with a career, his own place, a car, social life, higher purpose, etc. 19 year olds think 6 pack abs are impressive. It's not hard to impress them. But you are also more likely to activate their cognitive dissonance as an older man. Her body might say yes but her socially conditioned mind might tell her no because her friends are biased. But once the real world hits her like a ton of bricks and she has to pay her own rent, she's going to realize real quick what real value looks like. And it's not about being cool.
Even as a guy in my 30's, I get qualified by 21 year old women on my career and social status. Believe it or not, they would not have dated me if I was 21 and still in college. They might have slept with me if there was attraction, but they wouldn't take me seriously.
Men and women do not have the same internal clocks. When a woman is 21, she is in her absolute prime. And she is vetting for a prime man. Most 23 year old guys are still trying to figure themselves out. A guy doesn't hit his prime until he is about 27. Some guys don't have everything figured out until 30.
So 27-30 year old man = 21 year old woman, roughly.
However, because men can get better with age, a 40 year old man can have just as much value if not more than a 27 year old man. We are not judged on our ability to bear children, so we can't lose value just for getting older.
However the average hot 21 year old in her prime is not likely looking for a husband or provider. She has her choice of the hot young buff guy for parties and marathon sex and the older guy with some class and some cash for mature dates and sexual technique. She has the highest SMV out of everyone. And she knows it. She’s not likely to be vetting for one prime man, she’s going to be vetting for prime MEN. Because she can. And at 21, she’s not likely going to care if he has it all sorted out. Women that age typically aren’t looking to settle with one guy anyway so being a stable Joe with a good job won’t impress her as much as being youthful but having some class, maturity that her male peers won’t have, and the money to show her a good time that males her age can’t afford. And he has to look good too. Women have eyes and young women are way more into looks than older women.