Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Not really. I gave up years ago and entered into a LTR with a far from perfect but really lovable girl.Have any of you older guys found the fountain of youth???
This is simply not true. You think your 60 year old self will perform at the same level as your 30 year old self with identical fitness regiments?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Depends on what you mean by older. But yes. It’s a difficult mental game at first but the end is to hard a physical goal.Have any of you older guys found the fountain of youth???
I started noticing some things when I was 36 - some GERD, and weight didn't just fall off of me automatically as it previously did. All I can say is wait until you're my age, 59 lol. I have a lot of joint problems that challenge me. They say swimming is the best exercise, by the way. Low impact and works the entire body.I'm 38 years old and for the first time in my life, really the past 3-4 years or so, I'm starting to experience age.
Not only that, but every body is different. I have joint problems, but a lot of people are dead at my age, and some have debilitating diseases. Some people smoke all their life and live to 100, while others exercise every day, eat right, and drop dead at 45.You think your 60 year old self will perform at the same level as your 30 year old self with identical fitness regiments?
For sure. Have you ever tried cycling? If so have you found it tougher on the joints than swimming?I started noticing some things when I was 36 - some GERD, and weight didn't just fall off of me automatically as it previously did. All I can say is wait until you're my age, 59 lol. I have a lot of joint problems that challenge me. They say swimming is the best exercise, by the way. Low impact and works the entire body.
Not only that, but every body is different. I have joint problems, but a lot of people are dead at my age, and some have debilitating diseases. Some people smoke all their life and live to 100, while others exercise every day, eat right, and drop dead at 45.
I don't swim, although I recognize its value as an exercise. I don't think cycling is hard on the joints, but I've never thought it was that satisfying because it's not really a total body exercise. I'll do it to burn calories though or for some cardio.For sure. Have you ever tried cycling? If so have you found it tougher on the joints than swimming?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm a hockey player. When I 'retire' from hockey (likely in my mid 40s) I want to try masters cycling. I've always been an awful swimmer thoughI don't swim, although I recognize its value as an exercise. I don't think cycling is hard on the joints, but I've never thought it was that satisfying because it's not really a total body exercise. I'll do it to burn calories though or for some cardio.
In this day and age, its not difficult for a 60 year old to be in better shape than the average 30 year old. Look at the obesity crisis. Ok you wont be in better shape than when you were younger if you have always been in peak shape but thats not the point. You can either tell yourself that its over and not bother, or you can tell yourself that age is just a number, and do something about your health and fitness and increase your sense of self, well being and longevity. I guess thats my point.This is simply not true. You think your 60 year old self will perform at the same level as your 30 year old self with identical fitness regiments?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I used bands when I was trying to rehab some rotator cuff issues. They're no substitute for weights but they aren't as jarring to the tendons. Might be something useful for the OP to consider.switch to using cables and bands and focus on smooth controlled movements
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.