Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So, you live your life by a formula?LOLseagull said:Just use the age old formula.
Take your age, divide it by two.
Then add seven to that figure.
That is the youngest age you can go.
25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's just goofy.seagull said:Just use the age old formula.
Take your age, divide it by two.
Then add seven to that figure.
That is the youngest age you can go.
25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DJnoob said:Im 25 and lets say the HB i want to be friends and or date is 18..
What you guys think? Does this normally work out for you guys?
tmpgstx said:Don't blow it dude, i had my chance at 25 of an 18 year that liked me alot. She's a doctor now and i thought she was hot but too young for me. Go figure, was too dam mature for my own good. Now that i'm a bit older, realize how dumb that was. I'm shooting from the hip for girls in their early 20s now. It's just their so dam immature some of them ..lol.
~~~ chuckling ~~~How the h3ll can you gauge a 18 year old girl's maturity; by her cup size?