JohnnyIrish
Master Don Juan
.. how bad is this to eat?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I dunno, possibly.Francisco d'Anconia said:Is that the same stuff that's underneath the stove?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
HOLYMaster Bates said:It will give you penis tumors in the shape of Al Roker's face. don't risk it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
are you 12Potbelly said:HOLY
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Exactly what I was wondering and ya answered it to a T. Thanks for the detailed info.Throttle said:you'll know if you get the blackened stuff into the sauce... it'll have black crumblies in it & taste smoky. if you eat your steaks rare to medium-rare then you shouldn't need to blacken it, and all steak lovers should get comfortable with eating well-seared but not blackened medium rare steaks. that's an opinion from one steak lover to another. if it comforts you, i don't know of any epidemiological evidence linking cancer and eating well-done steaks, but here's the science:
http://chemistry.about.com/b/2007/06/24/mmm-mmm-cancer.htm
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'll have to try that.RedPill said:Try this. . .
If you're pan-cooking steak, make a bed of sliced onions (use an entire onion) to cover the bottom of the pan. Use a small amount of oil or butter to keep the onions from burning, and cook the steak on top of the onions. The juices from the steak will infuse the onions, creating a delicious side item to go with the steak. The steak will still cook well and won't make total contact with the pan surface. You'll get full flavor with minimal burnage.
Ah, but you miss out on all of that seared, juice infused goodness. Poaching a steak is good if you're making a pot roast type deal but even then you want to sear the meat to insulate the inside moistness.JohnnyIrish said:I'll have to try that.
What I just learned and tried:
Took my steak, cut off the fat. Then cut them long ways (so you have about 1/2 or 2/3 inch thick strips of steak. Put butter and olive oil in a pan. As it melts add steak. Add in 1/4 cup of water, kosher salt, pepper, parsley, and garlic. Keep stirring. When the water is close to being fully evaporated, the steak should be done (I tasted it and yep.. perfect). At this point add in another tsp of butter and mix it twice around. Pour the steak and its contents on a place with its sauce.
Besides this tasting better then any steak I previously cooked.. A major bonus for me is this just delt with evaporating water.. so no SMOKE! Yay.. my fire alarm didn't go off this time!:woo: