Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How the heck have you gained 15 kilos in a month??

Are you eating Lokum, Tel Kadayif, Baklava, Künefe and Fırın Sütluç 24 hours a day, 7 days a week??
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
Hi Nellysses,
If it's any consolation,with age and familiarity things will gradually improve.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How the heck have you gained 15 kilos in a month??

Are you eating Lokum, Tel Kadayif, Baklava, Künefe and Fırın Sütluç 24 hours a day, 7 days a week??
I really don't know. My body gains weight very quickly. And I lose it just as quickly. I can gain 15 kilos in a month and then lose 12 kilos again, for example. The problem is, while it's so easy to gain weight, to lose it I really need to avoid using even a single cheat.
Hi Nellysses,
If it's any consolation,with age and familiarity things will gradually improve.
I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough.
 

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I really don't know. My body gains weight very quickly. And I lose it just as quickly. I can gain 15 kilos in a month and then lose 12 kilos again, for example. The problem is, while it's so easy to gain weight, to lose it I really need to avoid using even a single cheat.

I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough.
Did you take the covid vaccine? That might be it
 

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Hi Nelysses,
"I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough."I think you have a guilt complex about this,what you describe is not unusual at all,if you don't have a partner,it's a healthy outlet.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
Quit consuming pornography (if you are) and masturbation for a month, then report back.
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
See a urologist.
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
If you're open-minded in that regard, even as someone with a medical profession, I would recommend trying out the Primal diet by Aajonus Vonderplanitz. Especially the hot baths that are strongly recommended for people on the diet should fix this issue in no time.

No offense intended, but if you have issues at that age, I would bet good money you won't find a solution to this your whole life with conventional medicine. In fact, I would be rather sure following the medical guidelines will make it seem like it works for a couple months, and then it exponentially worsens and turns into a big issue


Quit consuming pornography (if you are) and masturbation for a month, then report back.
And of course this ... it's unbelievable how mainstream medical "science" still claims fapping and porn have no impact.
 

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And of course this ... it's unbelievable how mainstream medical "science" still claims fapping and porn have no impact.
People don't want to be accountable for anything. People want to justify all their degeneracy to cope
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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