"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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after years of masturbating i cant cumming

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How the heck have you gained 15 kilos in a month??

Are you eating Lokum, Tel Kadayif, Baklava, Künefe and Fırın Sütluç 24 hours a day, 7 days a week??
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
Hi Nellysses,
If it's any consolation,with age and familiarity things will gradually improve.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How the heck have you gained 15 kilos in a month??

Are you eating Lokum, Tel Kadayif, Baklava, Künefe and Fırın Sütluç 24 hours a day, 7 days a week??
I really don't know. My body gains weight very quickly. And I lose it just as quickly. I can gain 15 kilos in a month and then lose 12 kilos again, for example. The problem is, while it's so easy to gain weight, to lose it I really need to avoid using even a single cheat.
Hi Nellysses,
If it's any consolation,with age and familiarity things will gradually improve.
I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough.
 

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I really don't know. My body gains weight very quickly. And I lose it just as quickly. I can gain 15 kilos in a month and then lose 12 kilos again, for example. The problem is, while it's so easy to gain weight, to lose it I really need to avoid using even a single cheat.

I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough.
Did you take the covid vaccine? That might be it
 

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Hi Nelysses,
"I'm 23 years old. The problem is, I was fapping all my high school and early twenties. Now I feel like I'm finally facing the consequences. I'm not enjoying it enough."I think you have a guilt complex about this,what you describe is not unusual at all,if you don't have a partner,it's a healthy outlet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
Quit consuming pornography (if you are) and masturbation for a month, then report back.
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
See a urologist.
 

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I masturbated for years and was addicted. I'm trying to thaw now (also, I've gained 15 kilos in the last month. I don't know if that's related).
I'm intimate with my girlfriend (excluding penetration), but I can never cumming. How can I solve this?
The problem is, sometimes even when we're outside, my pants get wet just being around her. But in the end, I can't ***.
If you're open-minded in that regard, even as someone with a medical profession, I would recommend trying out the Primal diet by Aajonus Vonderplanitz. Especially the hot baths that are strongly recommended for people on the diet should fix this issue in no time.

No offense intended, but if you have issues at that age, I would bet good money you won't find a solution to this your whole life with conventional medicine. In fact, I would be rather sure following the medical guidelines will make it seem like it works for a couple months, and then it exponentially worsens and turns into a big issue


Quit consuming pornography (if you are) and masturbation for a month, then report back.
And of course this ... it's unbelievable how mainstream medical "science" still claims fapping and porn have no impact.
 

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And of course this ... it's unbelievable how mainstream medical "science" still claims fapping and porn have no impact.
People don't want to be accountable for anything. People want to justify all their degeneracy to cope
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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