SIXPAKGQ
Don Juan
...apologized and felt guilty for rejecting me. How should I respond?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think the only way to respond is to find another girl.Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
How should I respond?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The girl rejected you therefore it doesn't matter what you say, IT"S OVER!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
fatal : that would not be a response. thats another scenerio
Originally posted by jakethasnake
Maybe you can get a guilt-trip fvck out of this.
More seriously, you could just play it off like it's no big deal, and tell (jokingly) that you'll 'forgive her' if she introduces you to some of her cute friends.Seriously! For some odd and miraculous reason, you put yourself on the line, she rejected you, then she gave you the power right back by APOLOGIZING! This, I ain't never heard of before. Maybe you look so hurt and pathetic after the rejection that she felt especially bad? LOL.
in front of her, after you finish analing her friend who your having a 3some with.Originally posted by jakethasnake
At the point, the best, most hassle-free approach would be to go fvck another girl.
Neg hits are to be used when you need to knock the girl down a little to keep her in check and is generally used before you get rejected.Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
fatal ; any neg hits that i can use on her?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well you would look kind of stupid putting her down after you just asked her out. Guys look retarded when they say something like "your loss" after a girl rejected him. If it's her loss why didn't she ask you out?Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
fatal ; any neg hits that i can use on her?
Originally posted by Fatality
Well you would look kind of stupid putting her down after you just asked her out. Guys look retarded when they say something like "your loss" after a girl rejected him. If it's her loss why didn't she ask you out?
Just say somehting like"it never hurts to try" and move on.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.