generalmarcuz
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After a week without sending email or sms what is the best email or sms opener? Do you just say hi, how are you? Its been a long time, how are you? Or are there better openers out there?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How about your reach down to your pants and find your balls and grab onto them because you need to remind yourself that if you want something in this life "you got to have balls and go after it". Forget about the stupid email or sms and give the girl a call already. While you are working slowly and methadocially, some other dude is going to get her or already got her.generalmarcuz said:After a week without sending email or sms what is the best email or sms opener? Do you just say hi, how are you? Its been a long time, how are you? Or are there better openers out there?
We're assuming that he has her number. If he has it her number, it looks even more AFC that he doesn't use it.DJDamage said:How about your reach down to your pants and find your balls and grab onto them because you need to remind yourself that if you want something in this life "you got to have balls and go after it". Forget about the stupid email or sms and give the girl a call already. While you are working slowly and methadocially, some other dude is going to get her or already got her.
Even if he doesn't have her number, the real question is "why doesn't he have her number"?Francisco d'Anconia said:We're assuming that he has her number. If he has it her number, it looks even more AFC that he doesn't use it.