"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
After a date, what if
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If its a 1st date, then u should wait about an hour or so. But if its a girl u have gone out to many dates with etc, then a reply a few minutes later is ok. But if you drop her off at home at like 2 in the morning, then u dont wanna wait too long because she will probably go to sleep soon after u drop her off, so if thats the case, then sms her back after a few minutes of her sms'ing you (phsycologically if the last thing that she reads/thinkis about is u, she will subcontiously think about you in her sleep, and this will create additional attraction for her towards you)
If you dont believe in it, then u dont have to do it, and you can continue doing things in the ways that u think are "right" or "better", but for those who are willing to try it out and see that it DOES "do sh!t" , goodluck.Originally posted by Hot Ice
Well, of course!
Hehehe. DJ's are always concentrating these little bull details that don't do ****...
Laterz...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Who is that aimed at? Any what is ur reason for saying that? have u tried it before? have u asked a woman on HER opinion on this matter? Has it worked or NOT worked for you? Because i HAVE tried this in the past, and i HAVE asked a woman on her point of view on the subject, and it HAS worked for me in the past (the girls told me this).... oh ya.. umm... what was that u were saying about being a fool?
P.S.: Every girl that i have wanted/tried to bed i have been successfull with.
Laterz...
(i added the word "tried" into that sentence so that people wouldnt missunderstand what i mean)
You missed my point.... ok... try this... after a date with a girl, u get home and u sms her (putting urself in her position) now if u go to bed without a reply u will have doughts and u wont know what to think.... but if u sms her and u get a reply, u will go to sleep alot more "calmy" and peacfull at mind... and when u wake up u will not wake up with doughts, u will wake up thinkking positivelly about her etc.
It might be a little hard to explain, but just do it and see
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Umm.... and why would u say that? I am not talking about celebs etc that i see on tv and say "omg i'd F*ck her" etc... i am talking about women that i have met in real life!
And btw... i have a gf at the moment, and i dont plan on cheating on her, so therfore i havnt TRIED to bed any other women. *G*
MY point is that you guys worry about the details far too much. Replying to somebody's text message, be it in an hour or a minute is not going to "sway" her attraction for you. In fact, that is the entire problem for the most part....is that we are walking on eggshells, careful not to "lower interest level".
You reply when you want to reply and do the normal, courteous thing. If a person is INTENTIONALLY not texting her back to appear like he doesn't care, then he is missing the big picture and will be too caught up in details to ever be able to take things to the next level.
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reply exactly 17.00037883746 second later. You will probably need an atomic clock to time it just right, but it could mean the difference between a next date, and complete failure.
instead of this bible, we need a don juan cook book recipe guide to getting women.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lol... SOLID... put it this way, the chances of something going "wrong" are greater than tehy are if u DONT text her back.... so if i were u, yes, i WOULD write back to her on that night, even if its right after she texts you.
But on the other hand, if she DOESNT text u 1st, THEN u dont text her. I actually called up 3 of my girl friends and they all said that if within 24 hours the guy doesnt text them reguardless if she texts him 1st, then they will think that the guy is not interested, so overall what i think that u should do is:
1) If she texts you 1st, then text her back right afterwards.
2) If she desnt text you, then the following day u can text her saying something along the lines of " Hey, i really enjoyed last night" etc.
Laterz...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.