"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AFC friend getting married to fat ugly girlfriend..
- Thread starter Stéphane
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WHy is he AFC just because he wants to marry a woman who you don't find attractive?
also. maybe they are happy together? Just a thought
me and my first gf and really close. she's not the first girl i've been with, but she is my first "real" gf. we are best friends and hope for a future together
nothing wrong with his picture at all. live you life man, and let him live his.
Marrying the FIRST person you have a relationship with should be a no no
. Obviously he is compensating with this girl, and can do much better. Do they get along? Does she boss him around? There is no way you should be marrying with such inexperience in relationships. Is he just grabbing onto the first thing he can find?If this was my mate I would do everything to stop him, even if I looked like a complete prick. He is throwing his life away!
Marriage is supposed to be a life long thing. How does he know they want to be together for the rest of their lives? Is he happy humping a whale till the end of his days? (WHO WOULD BE?!).
Conclusion:
There is only one thing you can do.
Object at the marriage ceremony and explain how much of a fat wh0re she is and he can do better! :cheer:
You should not get married to someone until you are experienced with relationships and know exactly what you do and do not want in a person.
This is not shallow. If I were to marry someone I would to know that they are a healthy individual (by not being a farkin whale), and of course ATTRACTIVE (Which should be high up on your shopping list anyway).
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
/thread.slaog said:
No wait, not quite. If he's happy, if she's happy, that's what matters. I'm pro-marriage and I'd rather be married to a plain woman who makes me happy than a pretty one who drives me crazy. And we all know the pretty ones usually do.
You're going to stick your **** in the same woman for the rest of your life. You really think it's going to matter how she looks after 3 years?
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Stéphane said:
it would not work out even if he married a model... marriage is obsolete.. sadly he thinks his odds are better cause she is unattractive but ugly fatties cheat and lie just like beauty queens...
Ugly fatties are being chased by the millions of men that are rejected by cute girls every day.
Buck Rogers
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a) they live in a dreamworld
b) they dont think theyre bad with women
c) they dont dump they get dumped. he isnt going to finish with her.
But if he is a real AFC then he will not be in the relationship for too much longer, AFC's always **** up, even with fat chicks....and thats where you come in an take him under your wing.
sounds like more of a put down to me than trying to help him
so what if he's marrying his first girlfriend? is it a sin or something?
IMO they'd be better off together not having to deal with all the stupid emotional baggage that comes after 50 different "failed" relationships
I think you should be proud that this man found someone he wants to be with forever instead of trying to stop him. help him make the most out of his relationship. be a friend not a hater
I think somewhere deep down, you are all Jealous of this man. A good girl is hard to find these days, let alone a good wife. so why tear down someone who's found it on the first try?
Furyguy
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He wants to spend the next 70 years with the same woman? He wants to go 70 years without ever ****ing another girl?
The future is such a strange place. Amazing things can happen and amazing relationships can form. He's an idiot for thinking he'll never meet someone he likes more than this broad.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Furyguy said:
why is he an idiot for getting married?
22 is not too young. In many culture across the globe people get married much younger
Marriage does not have an age requirement
some people honestly want marriage over broads
strange i know, but true
DonGorgon
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Ganondorf said:
marriage is obsolete.. like religion..
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Ganondorf said:
Here in the US it really is. Guy should be getting his life and career on track so he can be a good husband at 30.
Because your dick going into a pretty face is just so much more fun to watch.San Jose California said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.