"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
AFC friend getting married to fat ugly girlfriend..
- Thread starter Stéphane
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WHy is he AFC just because he wants to marry a woman who you don't find attractive?
also. maybe they are happy together? Just a thought
me and my first gf and really close. she's not the first girl i've been with, but she is my first "real" gf. we are best friends and hope for a future together
nothing wrong with his picture at all. live you life man, and let him live his.
Marrying the FIRST person you have a relationship with should be a no no
. Obviously he is compensating with this girl, and can do much better. Do they get along? Does she boss him around? There is no way you should be marrying with such inexperience in relationships. Is he just grabbing onto the first thing he can find?If this was my mate I would do everything to stop him, even if I looked like a complete prick. He is throwing his life away!
Marriage is supposed to be a life long thing. How does he know they want to be together for the rest of their lives? Is he happy humping a whale till the end of his days? (WHO WOULD BE?!).
Conclusion:
There is only one thing you can do.
Object at the marriage ceremony and explain how much of a fat wh0re she is and he can do better! :cheer:
You should not get married to someone until you are experienced with relationships and know exactly what you do and do not want in a person.
This is not shallow. If I were to marry someone I would to know that they are a healthy individual (by not being a farkin whale), and of course ATTRACTIVE (Which should be high up on your shopping list anyway).
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
/thread.slaog said:
No wait, not quite. If he's happy, if she's happy, that's what matters. I'm pro-marriage and I'd rather be married to a plain woman who makes me happy than a pretty one who drives me crazy. And we all know the pretty ones usually do.
You're going to stick your **** in the same woman for the rest of your life. You really think it's going to matter how she looks after 3 years?
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Stéphane said:
it would not work out even if he married a model... marriage is obsolete.. sadly he thinks his odds are better cause she is unattractive but ugly fatties cheat and lie just like beauty queens...
Ugly fatties are being chased by the millions of men that are rejected by cute girls every day.
Buck Rogers
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a) they live in a dreamworld
b) they dont think theyre bad with women
c) they dont dump they get dumped. he isnt going to finish with her.
But if he is a real AFC then he will not be in the relationship for too much longer, AFC's always **** up, even with fat chicks....and thats where you come in an take him under your wing.
sounds like more of a put down to me than trying to help him
so what if he's marrying his first girlfriend? is it a sin or something?
IMO they'd be better off together not having to deal with all the stupid emotional baggage that comes after 50 different "failed" relationships
I think you should be proud that this man found someone he wants to be with forever instead of trying to stop him. help him make the most out of his relationship. be a friend not a hater
I think somewhere deep down, you are all Jealous of this man. A good girl is hard to find these days, let alone a good wife. so why tear down someone who's found it on the first try?
Furyguy
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He wants to spend the next 70 years with the same woman? He wants to go 70 years without ever ****ing another girl?
The future is such a strange place. Amazing things can happen and amazing relationships can form. He's an idiot for thinking he'll never meet someone he likes more than this broad.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Furyguy said:
why is he an idiot for getting married?
22 is not too young. In many culture across the globe people get married much younger
Marriage does not have an age requirement
some people honestly want marriage over broads
strange i know, but true
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Ganondorf said:
marriage is obsolete.. like religion..
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Ganondorf said:
Here in the US it really is. Guy should be getting his life and career on track so he can be a good husband at 30.
Because your dick going into a pretty face is just so much more fun to watch.San Jose California said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.