Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Show him this or similar forums on the net and tell him he could either do better or live miserably for the rest of his life. The choise is up to him, really..Stéphane said:My AFC friend since childhood is getting married to a fat ugly girl, how do I tell him that I think it's a bad idea. He's 22, it's his first girlfriend, and now he's getting married.......
Probably a little bit of both, he probably doesn't think he can do better, and plus he seems to be in love with her, but it's his first girlfriend seriously...Juan_Man said:Do you think he is marrying her because he is insecure and doesn't think he can do better or do you think he really loves her?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Why is it a bad idea? Her girlfriend could be trying to convince her the same thing.Stéphane said:My AFC friend since childhood is getting married to a fat ugly girl, how do I tell him that I think it's a bad idea. He's 22, it's his first girlfriend, and now he's getting married.......
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
/thread.slaog said:She might be a nice person and they might be happy togethar??
Stéphane said:My AFC friend since childhood is getting married to a fat ugly girl, how do I tell him that I think it's a bad idea. He's 22, it's his first girlfriend, and now he's getting married.......
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Furyguy said:22 is too young to be getting married. Your life is barely 1/5th of the way over by then.
He wants to spend the next 70 years with the same woman? He wants to go 70 years without ever ****ing another girl?
The future is such a strange place. Amazing things can happen and amazing relationships can form. He's an idiot for thinking he'll never meet someone he likes more than this broad.
Ganondorf said:why is he an idiot for getting married?
Ganondorf said:22 is not too young.
Because your dick going into a pretty face is just so much more fun to watch.San Jose California said:No one has answered my question yet: why SHOULD you marry a hot woman?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.