"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AFC chick... a guy's perspective this time.

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I was supposed to go out with her tommorow, but i'm really thinkin' about ditching her. Now before you smack me over the head, hear me out.

She messages me everyday, whining about how bored she is.... and tries to setup more dates before our original date. She was online today, and wanted me to wake up early to have breakfast with her tommorow, after i politely refused she kept on whining to me about how she has nothing to do on a fri. Your typical AFC. I'm starting to understand why girls flake on guys who do that. I mean at first i wanted to get some... b/c she is pretty good looking, but the way shes acting is a reallllllly big turnoff.

Am i turning into a chick or what? lol

Tables have turned :crazy:
but, its not that great being on the winning team either.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It sucks when they get all clingy, I know. Now you know that if you got in a relationship with her just how need and clingy she would be!
 

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i don't mind clinginess all that much. it's better than the alternative extreme. Generally you can just blow her off when you don't want to see her and she'll still be dying to be with you when you're bored. And if she gets all obsessed with you, she'll rave about you to all the other girls she knows so you'll get social proof for if you decide to dump her later.

i probably wouldn't dump her if she's good-looking.
 

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Yea, it comes down to if she's hot or not. If she's hot, you can tolerate a little more of the clinginess. If she's average or below, no.
 

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Obsidian said:
i don't mind clinginess all that much. it's better than the alternative extreme. Generally you can just blow her off when you don't want to see her and she'll still be dying to be with you when you're bored. And if she gets all obsessed with you, she'll rave about you to all the other girls she knows so you'll get social proof for if you decide to dump her later.

i probably wouldn't dump her if she's good-looking.

yea, i just keep her around for when im bored, like a chick would lead on an AFC.

I think the most important think to learn from this is:
girls aren't that hard to understand, if you can't understand em you're just too needy and pathetic. :flowers:

Grow some balls, respect yourself and start doing your own thing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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