"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AFC chick... a guy's perspective this time.

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I was supposed to go out with her tommorow, but i'm really thinkin' about ditching her. Now before you smack me over the head, hear me out.

She messages me everyday, whining about how bored she is.... and tries to setup more dates before our original date. She was online today, and wanted me to wake up early to have breakfast with her tommorow, after i politely refused she kept on whining to me about how she has nothing to do on a fri. Your typical AFC. I'm starting to understand why girls flake on guys who do that. I mean at first i wanted to get some... b/c she is pretty good looking, but the way shes acting is a reallllllly big turnoff.

Am i turning into a chick or what? lol

Tables have turned :crazy:
but, its not that great being on the winning team either.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It sucks when they get all clingy, I know. Now you know that if you got in a relationship with her just how need and clingy she would be!
 

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i don't mind clinginess all that much. it's better than the alternative extreme. Generally you can just blow her off when you don't want to see her and she'll still be dying to be with you when you're bored. And if she gets all obsessed with you, she'll rave about you to all the other girls she knows so you'll get social proof for if you decide to dump her later.

i probably wouldn't dump her if she's good-looking.
 

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Yea, it comes down to if she's hot or not. If she's hot, you can tolerate a little more of the clinginess. If she's average or below, no.
 

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Obsidian said:
i don't mind clinginess all that much. it's better than the alternative extreme. Generally you can just blow her off when you don't want to see her and she'll still be dying to be with you when you're bored. And if she gets all obsessed with you, she'll rave about you to all the other girls she knows so you'll get social proof for if you decide to dump her later.

i probably wouldn't dump her if she's good-looking.

yea, i just keep her around for when im bored, like a chick would lead on an AFC.

I think the most important think to learn from this is:
girls aren't that hard to understand, if you can't understand em you're just too needy and pathetic. :flowers:

Grow some balls, respect yourself and start doing your own thing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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