"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I would not mind a little advise here. I was approached by a thin, beautiful, large breasted personal trainer at school last week. I know, but its true. We exchanged numbers. She called me first on Friday. I couldn't talk long and told her I would call her soon. I called on Monday night and left a vm telling her to call if she wanted. She called back @ 10 that night and we talked for about 5 minutes. I was just trying to set up a date. Apparently I kept saying that I would call her tomorrow (tuesday). I thought we made plans for tuesday night. I call her this afternoon and she says I must of misheard her because tonight is her aunts birthday. I told her I have something to do tomorrow night for a couple hours and am busy the rest of the week. She said we should get together tomorrow when I am done with my thing. We talked for about an hour today. I need advise on what to do next. Should I not call her tomorrow and wait for her to call even if it means not seeing her till next week? Should I not call her again until she calls me? Should I call her now and meet her for a quick bite? Any help would be appreciated.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yeah. Just call her and setup a meet. Don't worry about looking "too available" and all that stuff.

I know situations when a guy needs to hold back and not be too available for a chick...but this doesn't feel like one of those. Her interest seems high enough, and she's not playing any games with you yet. Go for it now, and see where it takes you.
 

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The best advice is to make a damn move and just do it like Nike.

Case closed.
 

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So she texts me the next morning (Wed) and I call her when I wake up a couple of hours later and we talk for about an hour. She ends the call by telling me I better not cancel on her (Wed night) after my thing. I get a text from her later that day that she can't do it tonight "something important has come up". I text back no problem and she didn't call Thursday. What is my next move?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yea. she text me friday morning saying her house flooded. Now I think she may be a clinger. lol. nonstop texting-calling. thanks
 

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How about some pics?


Could be crazy, if it's a little too easy (good to be true) it usually is.
 

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This chick could be crazy. Major issues. Pic I have does not show the body. She tries to make me feel jealous. Constant tests. Could be over though. I thought her pic had a facial abnormality on it and I pointed it out to her. She got freaked out and hasn't responded much this weekend. Could be over. This is my last two months of college. woooohoooooo. I can't have some crazy chick playing with my mind right now. She called this morning, but I did not answer and probably will not call unless she leaves me a message apologizing and telling me exactly why she did not respond well this weekend. I still need advice though if I am doing something wrong. I don't think ***** is in the cards. She is very religious. If I was going to talk to her it would be just for *****.
 

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post a pic via imageshack or something.. edit: didnt realize you don't have body pic, then no matter..


In any case, here is what i would do - I'd use her for social proof. I'd invite her out to parties and bars, and then other girls would go "damn that guy is with her, who is he?!" and you could tell him just who you are :)

if she starts acting crazy when you do this, then just drop her.
 
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I am not sure I could think of her as just social proof. It seems like when I talk to her I can't stop thinking about her. The way I see it, either she apologizes or I don't call. I don't have time for this ****.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Amazing said:
post a pic via imageshack or something..


In any case, here is what i would do - I'd use her for social proof. I'd invite her out to parties and bars, and then other girls would go "damn that guy is with her, who is he?!" and you could tell him just who you are :)

if she starts acting crazy when you do this, then just drop her.
What's with you and the pics, man? Jesus.:crackup:

Anyway, I don't know about using this girl for social proof. If ncontradiction wants to date this girl, then he shouldn't settle for second best. Either she's dating him, or he's dropping her.

And right now it sounds like too much drama for what he's getting out of it. I'd back off for a while.
 

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Don't drop her fast ... pursue other women while your at it. If she calls back just answer and setup a date, if she cancels again then yeah it's a lost cause. Keep her as a friend you never know, she may have hot friends.
 
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