"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would not mind a little advise here. I was approached by a thin, beautiful, large breasted personal trainer at school last week. I know, but its true. We exchanged numbers. She called me first on Friday. I couldn't talk long and told her I would call her soon. I called on Monday night and left a vm telling her to call if she wanted. She called back @ 10 that night and we talked for about 5 minutes. I was just trying to set up a date. Apparently I kept saying that I would call her tomorrow (tuesday). I thought we made plans for tuesday night. I call her this afternoon and she says I must of misheard her because tonight is her aunts birthday. I told her I have something to do tomorrow night for a couple hours and am busy the rest of the week. She said we should get together tomorrow when I am done with my thing. We talked for about an hour today. I need advise on what to do next. Should I not call her tomorrow and wait for her to call even if it means not seeing her till next week? Should I not call her again until she calls me? Should I call her now and meet her for a quick bite? Any help would be appreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah. Just call her and setup a meet. Don't worry about looking "too available" and all that stuff.

I know situations when a guy needs to hold back and not be too available for a chick...but this doesn't feel like one of those. Her interest seems high enough, and she's not playing any games with you yet. Go for it now, and see where it takes you.
 

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The best advice is to make a damn move and just do it like Nike.

Case closed.
 

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So she texts me the next morning (Wed) and I call her when I wake up a couple of hours later and we talk for about an hour. She ends the call by telling me I better not cancel on her (Wed night) after my thing. I get a text from her later that day that she can't do it tonight "something important has come up". I text back no problem and she didn't call Thursday. What is my next move?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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yea. she text me friday morning saying her house flooded. Now I think she may be a clinger. lol. nonstop texting-calling. thanks
 

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How about some pics?


Could be crazy, if it's a little too easy (good to be true) it usually is.
 

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This chick could be crazy. Major issues. Pic I have does not show the body. She tries to make me feel jealous. Constant tests. Could be over though. I thought her pic had a facial abnormality on it and I pointed it out to her. She got freaked out and hasn't responded much this weekend. Could be over. This is my last two months of college. woooohoooooo. I can't have some crazy chick playing with my mind right now. She called this morning, but I did not answer and probably will not call unless she leaves me a message apologizing and telling me exactly why she did not respond well this weekend. I still need advice though if I am doing something wrong. I don't think ***** is in the cards. She is very religious. If I was going to talk to her it would be just for *****.
 

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post a pic via imageshack or something.. edit: didnt realize you don't have body pic, then no matter..


In any case, here is what i would do - I'd use her for social proof. I'd invite her out to parties and bars, and then other girls would go "damn that guy is with her, who is he?!" and you could tell him just who you are :)

if she starts acting crazy when you do this, then just drop her.
 
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I am not sure I could think of her as just social proof. It seems like when I talk to her I can't stop thinking about her. The way I see it, either she apologizes or I don't call. I don't have time for this ****.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Amazing said:
post a pic via imageshack or something..


In any case, here is what i would do - I'd use her for social proof. I'd invite her out to parties and bars, and then other girls would go "damn that guy is with her, who is he?!" and you could tell him just who you are :)

if she starts acting crazy when you do this, then just drop her.
What's with you and the pics, man? Jesus.:crackup:

Anyway, I don't know about using this girl for social proof. If ncontradiction wants to date this girl, then he shouldn't settle for second best. Either she's dating him, or he's dropping her.

And right now it sounds like too much drama for what he's getting out of it. I'd back off for a while.
 

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Don't drop her fast ... pursue other women while your at it. If she calls back just answer and setup a date, if she cancels again then yeah it's a lost cause. Keep her as a friend you never know, she may have hot friends.
 
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