Advice

[tbstimber12]

In need of Advice

So I've been an avid Don Juan reader for a few years now, and just finally registered for the forums because I need some advice.

I have this friend who I've been friends with for a little over 2 years. We initially became friends through a buddy of mine, and we were friends because we both were seeing other people at the time.

I never really thought of her as "more than a friend" until we had a little get together about a month ago when we went to a swing dance together.

She gave all the signs. Kino, flirting, it was all there, and it really made me change my mind about just being a friend with her.

After the date I basically told her I was interested in her, and that would couldn't just "be friends" anymore. I gave her some time to think about it and told her when I get back in town to let me know.

Did I handle this right??? Where should I go from here?? Thanks.

 

[tbstimber12]

Any help?

 

[Life-Trainee]

You probably made things worse. You turned what could've been an emotional decision into a rational one for her causing her to overanalyze the situation via introspection.

 

[tbstimber12]

Is there any way to resurect the situation...or move on?

 

[thefonz]

Re: In need of Advice

Originally posted by tbstimber12
So I've been an avid Don Juan reader for a few years now, and just finally registered for the forums because I need some advice.

I think your lying.....why would would you tell her your feelings if you were an avid reader?

 

[tbstimber12]

I never said

I never said I told her my feeling...I am not in love with this girl...I said I was interested in dating her...not being her friend

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

You should have asked us first before you put your foot in your mouth - now it soesn't matter - the deed has been done!!

Whatever you do don't ask her again or initiate the call!!

 

[SamePendo]

If I come up to you, and start telling you reasons on why I'm better than you, and everyone else in the world... telling you about my accomplishments, women i've nailed, will you believe me?

Would you expect me to be this person, if you see me with a hot GF, charismatic persona, positive, etc?

My point?

Don't ever let whatever you have to say get in the way of whatever you want to do.

What do I mean?

Don't talk, act. Show her whatever you want to show her, with actions, DJ actions, that is.

 

[tbstimber12]

Yea I definately figured to let her make the next move, but I didn't think I could get off the "friend" ladder if I didn't tell her that I could just be her friend anymore.

Thanks for the advice everyone

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by tbstimber12
Y.. but I didn't think I could get off the "friend" ladder if I didn't tell her that I could just be her friend anymore.

You should have asked her out dancing and grab her hand to slow dance and then gone for the kiss!! If she complys then you may have something if she would have turned her head in disgust then you would have known your answer.

 

[tbstimber12]

Swing dancing generally doesn't have slow songs...any other ideas???