"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I invited this girl over to myplace, we ordered pizza, then she helped me prepare some brownies. I had to play in a bball leauge that night so we did not get to finish them. i texted her the next day and said the brownies tasted good.

she replies" im glad i got the goods. u should try more. Im single!

Not sure what she meant by that. does she mean shes available and she wants me to pursue her more?

Or does she mean that she does not want to be in a relationship, i should try this more w/ other people.
wtf does she mean w/ this text?

brief about us, i have been hanging out w/ her for about a month, but i was taking things slowly, she thought i was not interested and she backed off a little, now i am stepping things up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your aloofness has payed off. She bit the hook now real her in. Take it slow though, she'll want to keep up with the anticipation and your coy demeanor.

It's working.
 
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u did good...

i think the above poster is spot on..
 
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thats good, a guess for once being a little clueless can work to your advantage.

Now she just recently moved into a new place. I was thinking of sending her a housewarming gift as bottle of wine and a paintbrush in a bag with a note "happy housewarmings." The paintbrush....she expressed how she wants to paint her place as currently the walls are white and lacking in life.

Thoughts as a gift? I believe is creative, she definately will have to remember.
I figure hey we can have a bottle of wine and I could help her paint in the future.
 
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It's not really recommended to give gifts like that
early on in the relationship.
Don't try and buy her affections.
Take her on a date and go for a kiss.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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actually let me correct that we have been hanging out for a couple of months, she just got back in town though after a vacation, things are starting to progress, still suggest otherwise? she hinted at she wants to be pampered.
 
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