"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jumpman23

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So I invited this girl over to myplace, we ordered pizza, then she helped me prepare some brownies. I had to play in a bball leauge that night so we did not get to finish them. i texted her the next day and said the brownies tasted good.

she replies" im glad i got the goods. u should try more. Im single!

Not sure what she meant by that. does she mean shes available and she wants me to pursue her more?

Or does she mean that she does not want to be in a relationship, i should try this more w/ other people.
wtf does she mean w/ this text?

brief about us, i have been hanging out w/ her for about a month, but i was taking things slowly, she thought i was not interested and she backed off a little, now i am stepping things up.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your aloofness has payed off. She bit the hook now real her in. Take it slow though, she'll want to keep up with the anticipation and your coy demeanor.

It's working.
 

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u did good...

i think the above poster is spot on..
 

Jumpman23

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thats good, a guess for once being a little clueless can work to your advantage.

Now she just recently moved into a new place. I was thinking of sending her a housewarming gift as bottle of wine and a paintbrush in a bag with a note "happy housewarmings." The paintbrush....she expressed how she wants to paint her place as currently the walls are white and lacking in life.

Thoughts as a gift? I believe is creative, she definately will have to remember.
I figure hey we can have a bottle of wine and I could help her paint in the future.
 

JDA70

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It's not really recommended to give gifts like that
early on in the relationship.
Don't try and buy her affections.
Take her on a date and go for a kiss.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jumpman23

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actually let me correct that we have been hanging out for a couple of months, she just got back in town though after a vacation, things are starting to progress, still suggest otherwise? she hinted at she wants to be pampered.
 
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