Ok so theres this girl im bit keen on and things are progressing well. using c/f portraying lots of confidence and higher value. calls me gorgous now when she talks to me. out of the blue then she brings up this other guy. so im thinkin to seal the deal of inviting a hb11( and trust me when i say 11) out next weekend. plan being i know shell be working and the HB ill be with likes to shop where the chick i like works. Cant get more social proof then the 11 in my opinion. what are your thoughts. any help would be greatly appreciated
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Advice
- Thread starter jocca
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Advice: Why is the girl you like NOT the extremely good looking chick? Chase that too - Why not? Also it strikes me that playing games to this degree could hurt. Why not just go out with the good looking girl and aim to have a good time - disregard what the other girl thinks, ignore her for the afternoon etc.
More advice: Remedial English classes. Urgently.
More advice: Remedial English classes. Urgently.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Yes, its quite weak, but he's "English" so you'll have to forgive him... Cup of tea ol'chap !!