"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aesthetix29

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Hey! So my FWB messaged me earlier to see if I wanted to go round hers for tea and to stay over .. I agreed, then about an hour later she messaged me asking if I fancied going to town instead as she's just been invited by a few friends etc.. So I agreed as its Friday after all ... She said to be at hers for 8 as they were leaving then ... So I got there at 8.10 .. Looked through the window and knocked no answer .. So I figured I missed them ... So I message her and she says she was in the shower and didn't hear me and apologised .. By this time I'm back home and slightly annoyed .. So I kept calm and said no worries ... And left it there. Now this wasn't a date as she my FB and have banged her many times, was this disrespectful to me or completely my fault and being slightly late, I just need to play it cool .. As I've made other plans now anyway.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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marmel75

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Hey! So my FWB messaged me earlier to see if I wanted to go round hers for tea and to stay over .. I agreed, then about an hour later she messaged me asking if I fancied going to town instead as she's just been invited by a few friends etc.. So I agreed as its Friday after all ... She said to be at hers for 8 as they were leaving then ... So I got there at 8.10 .. Looked through the window and knocked no answer .. So I figured I missed them ... So I message her and she says she was in the shower and didn't hear me and apologised .. By this time I'm back home and slightly annoyed .. So I kept calm and said no worries ... And left it there. Now this wasn't a date as she my FB and have banged her many times, was this disrespectful to me or completely my fault and being slightly late, I just need to play it cool .. As I've made other plans now anyway.
Should have just messaged her while you were there to save this thread, lol...

I wouldn't put too much into it, just continue as normal...maybe punish her by fvcking her hard in the ass for this last mishap
 

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Disrespect? Your fault? What the fvck? Why are you looking for someone to blame? Stuff like this just happens. People do figure out they'll take showers while they wait, people do struggle to hear stuff when in the shower.
 

kronreiff

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You were late and she went on with her business, and you should have too. Simple.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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2Rocky

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1) You were late to arrive by 10 minutes. Price you pay.
2) She didn't disrespect you.
3) Carry on as nothing happened.
4) Show up on time next time.
 

ZTIME

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The good news is that she was taking a shower. Nobody wants to go anywhere with a stinky chick.

The bad news is that you are digging way to deep into your emotional playpen over this whole situation.

Seems you're a bit more attached to your FWB then you lead us to believe.
 
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