"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Advice on how to play it after successful first date

bobafatt

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Went real well, got on great. Loads of kissing through the night. Had to boot after about 3 hours as was working a night shift. My question to you lot is how you play from here on.

Wait for her to contact me and set up the next date when she does?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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marmel75

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There is no "play". Anytime I hear this type of thing I know you are not where you need to be. You do what you want to do. When you are not desperate and have options it doesnt matter what you do, you will be fine. Whwn you have no options and are trying to follow rules you will have limited success.

You need to strive to stop worrying about this type of stuff. If you want to contact her contact her. If you want to wait then wait. Honestly the first thing you should do is set up dates with 2 other new women.
 

bobafatt

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haha keep the fingers in many pies, i see.

Overthinking can get you into more trouble then its worth, ill get in touch with a few other squeezes and see what there plans are this week
 

marmel75

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haha keep the fingers in many pies, i see.

Overthinking can get you into more trouble then its worth, ill get in touch with a few other squeezes and see what there plans are this week
Early on you gotta give the woman time to chase.
 

Chi Town

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Wait a couple days then give her a call but don't ask for a second date yet, just give her a call to see how she's doing then get off the phone, next time you contact her then you set up another date. Usually works for me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dash Riprock

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If you want to see her, you're the MAN, YOU call and set things up. None of this waiting for her to call or "chase" bull s*hit. Be direct, assertive, and proactive. NEVER wait around. If she's not interested, fine, move on. Just be cool and don't overdo it, and DO NOT chase her. You ask out, and that's it. No neediness. You're the prize, act like it.
 
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