"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Advice on how to play it after successful first date

bobafatt

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Went real well, got on great. Loads of kissing through the night. Had to boot after about 3 hours as was working a night shift. My question to you lot is how you play from here on.

Wait for her to contact me and set up the next date when she does?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marmel75

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There is no "play". Anytime I hear this type of thing I know you are not where you need to be. You do what you want to do. When you are not desperate and have options it doesnt matter what you do, you will be fine. Whwn you have no options and are trying to follow rules you will have limited success.

You need to strive to stop worrying about this type of stuff. If you want to contact her contact her. If you want to wait then wait. Honestly the first thing you should do is set up dates with 2 other new women.
 

bobafatt

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haha keep the fingers in many pies, i see.

Overthinking can get you into more trouble then its worth, ill get in touch with a few other squeezes and see what there plans are this week
 

marmel75

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haha keep the fingers in many pies, i see.

Overthinking can get you into more trouble then its worth, ill get in touch with a few other squeezes and see what there plans are this week
Early on you gotta give the woman time to chase.
 

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Wait a couple days then give her a call but don't ask for a second date yet, just give her a call to see how she's doing then get off the phone, next time you contact her then you set up another date. Usually works for me
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dash Riprock

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If you want to see her, you're the MAN, YOU call and set things up. None of this waiting for her to call or "chase" bull s*hit. Be direct, assertive, and proactive. NEVER wait around. If she's not interested, fine, move on. Just be cool and don't overdo it, and DO NOT chase her. You ask out, and that's it. No neediness. You're the prize, act like it.
 
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