"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dustmuffin

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I was flaked by a okcupid girl. I had her number didn't contact. I showed up waited 15 mins and left.

This morning I get a message saying she forgot and wondered if I forgot too. Since I didn't contact her.

Do I

1. Ignore

2. Say I was there and not my job to remind her of date and see what she comes back with?

3. Say I forgot too?

Or something else?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
 
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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
Not bothered by flake. They happen. She is in medical sales. She said her phone was screwed up and couldn't contact me. She apologized several times too. Load of bs. She just forgot. Anyway have two new girls I'm talking to on okcupid. I also signed up on match. Girls are like a bus....new one comes along in 20 mins.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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