"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dustmuffin

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I was flaked by a okcupid girl. I had her number didn't contact. I showed up waited 15 mins and left.

This morning I get a message saying she forgot and wondered if I forgot too. Since I didn't contact her.

Do I

1. Ignore

2. Say I was there and not my job to remind her of date and see what she comes back with?

3. Say I forgot too?

Or something else?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
 
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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
Not bothered by flake. They happen. She is in medical sales. She said her phone was screwed up and couldn't contact me. She apologized several times too. Load of bs. She just forgot. Anyway have two new girls I'm talking to on okcupid. I also signed up on match. Girls are like a bus....new one comes along in 20 mins.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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