"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dustmuffin

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I was flaked by a okcupid girl. I had her number didn't contact. I showed up waited 15 mins and left.

This morning I get a message saying she forgot and wondered if I forgot too. Since I didn't contact her.

Do I

1. Ignore

2. Say I was there and not my job to remind her of date and see what she comes back with?

3. Say I forgot too?

Or something else?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
 
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if a girl actually forgets about a date it means her life is a disaster don't invite the chaos in buddy. and if it makes you feel any better I actually had a booty call flake last night. Net girl starts sending me sexy pics. says come on over every indication is that she's DTF. goes radio silent and then rings me up to tell me that she isn't that type of girl. WTF looking at that pic with the pierced tongue all the way out in lingerie and a couple of tatts I thought she was a strong contender for slvt of the week. modern chicks - mate you just have to treat them as comic relief.
Not bothered by flake. They happen. She is in medical sales. She said her phone was screwed up and couldn't contact me. She apologized several times too. Load of bs. She just forgot. Anyway have two new girls I'm talking to on okcupid. I also signed up on match. Girls are like a bus....new one comes along in 20 mins.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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