"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Advice needed - old flame to FB possible?

SecondHalf

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Met a woman of high social status about 3 months ago.
We had a very hot ... fling, then backed off as it was quite ... well ... ridiculous (and yep, I AFC'd a little - DJism was just a concept).
She wanted to keep in touch as friends but I NC'ed her for a couple months and saw someone else (also a crash and burn).

Now she's contacted me and I thought ... why not and asked her out to dinner (tonight).
I don't want anything long term from this woman as we both know our lives won't mesh, but the humping was good and I'd like to see if I can at least get that going again (just not the obsessive text messages ...). Great plate for the new china cabinet I'm trying to fill (I admit, three tops).

I've read a lot on this site, but I'm a little unsure of how I should proceed.
I will say that in the time we were dating, I was attentive, entertaining and made her yodel at night. I'm sure she at least misses that part.

Any high level advice?

note: in the worse case, she's a good person to have in your social circle in any capacity so I don't want to piss her off.

TY,

SH
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SecondHalf

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Thanks sam,

Just to make it clear, I responded to her txt while vacationing down south telling her that I was not available on fathers day and why.

Then I let her hang for 9 days and txt'd her back two days ago.

We agreed to catch up and meet for dinner (won't be me paying).

Me being AFCish had something to do with the breakup a while ago, but mostly it was lifestyle. She wants a man who can travel one week out of every month with her. I told her straight up, nope, I can't do that (have my own goals).

I wasn't hurt by this fling.

What would be the purpose to stand her up?
I'm not sure I follow your direction.

SH
 

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Dear Second Half,
As long as she is Geographically,thematically or work-wise not too close for comfort.....Then FB it is....Keeping them on the line is the difficult part.
 

SecondHalf

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Success!

That worked well.
Played it honest (well, mostly :)

Told her that my son has two girlfriends (well, he likes two girls), and if he was older I would teach him all of my evil ways.

Talked about what I know about behaviorist theories and that life long love is a lifestyle encouraged by the church and sensationalized by Hollywood.
Who would have thought my AFC studies searching for hope would serve me in such a fashion.

She invited me out of state to see a sports event that she has expensive tickets for next month.

I'll sleep well tonight!
 
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