"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Advice needed - old flame to FB possible?

SecondHalf

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Met a woman of high social status about 3 months ago.
We had a very hot ... fling, then backed off as it was quite ... well ... ridiculous (and yep, I AFC'd a little - DJism was just a concept).
She wanted to keep in touch as friends but I NC'ed her for a couple months and saw someone else (also a crash and burn).

Now she's contacted me and I thought ... why not and asked her out to dinner (tonight).
I don't want anything long term from this woman as we both know our lives won't mesh, but the humping was good and I'd like to see if I can at least get that going again (just not the obsessive text messages ...). Great plate for the new china cabinet I'm trying to fill (I admit, three tops).

I've read a lot on this site, but I'm a little unsure of how I should proceed.
I will say that in the time we were dating, I was attentive, entertaining and made her yodel at night. I'm sure she at least misses that part.

Any high level advice?

note: in the worse case, she's a good person to have in your social circle in any capacity so I don't want to piss her off.

TY,

SH
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SecondHalf

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Thanks sam,

Just to make it clear, I responded to her txt while vacationing down south telling her that I was not available on fathers day and why.

Then I let her hang for 9 days and txt'd her back two days ago.

We agreed to catch up and meet for dinner (won't be me paying).

Me being AFCish had something to do with the breakup a while ago, but mostly it was lifestyle. She wants a man who can travel one week out of every month with her. I told her straight up, nope, I can't do that (have my own goals).

I wasn't hurt by this fling.

What would be the purpose to stand her up?
I'm not sure I follow your direction.

SH
 

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Dear Second Half,
As long as she is Geographically,thematically or work-wise not too close for comfort.....Then FB it is....Keeping them on the line is the difficult part.
 

SecondHalf

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Success!

That worked well.
Played it honest (well, mostly :)

Told her that my son has two girlfriends (well, he likes two girls), and if he was older I would teach him all of my evil ways.

Talked about what I know about behaviorist theories and that life long love is a lifestyle encouraged by the church and sensationalized by Hollywood.
Who would have thought my AFC studies searching for hope would serve me in such a fashion.

She invited me out of state to see a sports event that she has expensive tickets for next month.

I'll sleep well tonight!
 
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