"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Advice needed now im out of the freindship zone

Raoul Duke

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Hey there,

Been really close friends with this girl for 2 years now and we've realised we both like each other. She wants us to go out on a date to see how things go. The only problem is as we've been friends for so long, going out for a drink or a meal whatever is just going to seem repeative.

My idea is this, and please provide advice whether you think its a good or bad idea: A couple of months ago we were considering going to a safari park for the day but it never materialized. Do you reckon this is would be the perfect idea for a first date or do you guys think it would be a bit too much too soon?

Also, is it a good idea to make it a bit of a suprise as i have an idea of how to ask her (better by text than calling i feel) id put something like this. "hey darlin i've got a well good place i'm gonna take you when i get back, your gonna love it!" Or does that sound a bit desperate?

Normally im not this paranoid but this girls quite special and i reckon it could go somewhere just realise the importance of the first steps. Could really do with some advice or ideas from you fellow DJs as your advice in the past has always produced results.

Cheers guys i hope i havent sounded too AFC cause trust me im really not!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This will be a tough one. I wouldn't even bother with formal dates - just go do stuff together like you normally do and then slowly add the the kino over time. Personally I don't think you'll get to far but good luck.
 

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You dont need to do the formal bullsh!t! You already know each other.....Just do something that ends with going back to one of your places and go for a close. If you both want it then it shud come natural.

Normally i find friends realise love to each other at parties and stuff and things just kick off straight away..


It depends how friendly you 2 already were really.
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
Hey man, how did you break the LJBF barrier?

Inquiring minds want to know. :D

I'm Trying to break it myself right now as a lil side experiment in my life. It's the equivalent to curing Cancer for DJ's!!! Share your wisdom with us and Give us some info on how you did it. :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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